After the political revamp, here's another revolutionising concept to ponder about. Redundantising the concept of Marriages. Before you start forming opinions and start judging the concept, please take a few minutes to read out the script here. Could help.
Let us begin with the basic premise of Marriages. Why do people marry? "People marry for many reasons, including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious" - says Wikipedia on Marriages. I am not going to dispute or contest any of those. For those who have any of these reasons or any other legitimate reason and a person to justify that reason, please, go ahead and get yourself enrolled in the knot of holy matrimony. However, for the lesser fortunate others, spare a thought.
Shouldn't there be a Necessary and Sufficient condition to get married???
Allow me to explain the terms in the above statement.
Necessary Condition: Existence of a condition, which may or may not per se justify marriage. For e.g. Love. You are in love with someone. Being in Love could be a necessary condition for someone before getting married. However, not really the prime justification to marry.
Sufficient Condition: Existence of a condition strong enough to marry. For eg., A relationship of deep Love, supplemented by emotional and financial stability - a sureshot justfication to get married immediately :)
Some would like to consider "unexpected emergency conditions" as sufficient condition to get married. As I said, to each his/her own. I am not going to dispute / contest them.
My point here is that unless we have a strong justifying reason, I don't see why one has to enter into the institution of marriage.
Institution. It really is. And very much so here in India, if not so much elsewhere. Marriage in India is a union of not only two people, but of two families. It is a social contract by virtue of which the couple lives together in the society. People getting married should be fully aware of what they are getting into. It is a question of at least two lives and plus the few more that they choose to bring in.
Every person deciding to get married should be aware and conscious in making this decision. They should get married for the correct reasons. Just because they love each other, doesn't mean they should get married. They might want entirely different things from life. Their priorities might be totally different. Some get married because they want a sense of security. For their senior years of life. What they fail to realize is in this process, they risk their present. And then they bring another life into this world to look after both of them. Again, a wrong decision for the wrong reasons. Raising a child is a whole big exercise in itself. Emotionally, financially, mentally, and many such -allys.
Let's analyze this from an entirely different perspective.
What do you get from a marriage that you cannot legally get otherwise. Coitus. If you leave that aside for a while, for everything else, you have friends and family. If there are some like-minded friends, they can start by living together. All needs, except for the aforementioned, are definitely met. Social - yes. Company - yes. Support system - yes. Old age - yes again. Old age you say? Adopt a child. Give him/her a better life.
The only question remains is what happens to the anatomical needs. Well, there are outlets for everything !
Let us begin with the basic premise of Marriages. Why do people marry? "People marry for many reasons, including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious" - says Wikipedia on Marriages. I am not going to dispute or contest any of those. For those who have any of these reasons or any other legitimate reason and a person to justify that reason, please, go ahead and get yourself enrolled in the knot of holy matrimony. However, for the lesser fortunate others, spare a thought.
Shouldn't there be a Necessary and Sufficient condition to get married???
Allow me to explain the terms in the above statement.
Necessary Condition: Existence of a condition, which may or may not per se justify marriage. For e.g. Love. You are in love with someone. Being in Love could be a necessary condition for someone before getting married. However, not really the prime justification to marry.
Sufficient Condition: Existence of a condition strong enough to marry. For eg., A relationship of deep Love, supplemented by emotional and financial stability - a sureshot justfication to get married immediately :)
Some would like to consider "unexpected emergency conditions" as sufficient condition to get married. As I said, to each his/her own. I am not going to dispute / contest them.
My point here is that unless we have a strong justifying reason, I don't see why one has to enter into the institution of marriage.
Institution. It really is. And very much so here in India, if not so much elsewhere. Marriage in India is a union of not only two people, but of two families. It is a social contract by virtue of which the couple lives together in the society. People getting married should be fully aware of what they are getting into. It is a question of at least two lives and plus the few more that they choose to bring in.
Every person deciding to get married should be aware and conscious in making this decision. They should get married for the correct reasons. Just because they love each other, doesn't mean they should get married. They might want entirely different things from life. Their priorities might be totally different. Some get married because they want a sense of security. For their senior years of life. What they fail to realize is in this process, they risk their present. And then they bring another life into this world to look after both of them. Again, a wrong decision for the wrong reasons. Raising a child is a whole big exercise in itself. Emotionally, financially, mentally, and many such -allys.
Let's analyze this from an entirely different perspective.
What do you get from a marriage that you cannot legally get otherwise. Coitus. If you leave that aside for a while, for everything else, you have friends and family. If there are some like-minded friends, they can start by living together. All needs, except for the aforementioned, are definitely met. Social - yes. Company - yes. Support system - yes. Old age - yes again. Old age you say? Adopt a child. Give him/her a better life.
The only question remains is what happens to the anatomical needs. Well, there are outlets for everything !
